When it comes to public speaking, confidence isn’t just how you feel — it’s how you sound.
The words you choose either strengthen or soften your credibility. If you’ve ever found yourself saying “As you know,” “Talk about…,” or “If that makes sense,” you might be unintentionally undercutting your message.
Let’s dive deeper into these three phrases, why you should cut them from your public speaking habits, and what to say instead.
1. Drop “As You Know” — Explain Instead of Assuming
When I watch panel discussions or one-on-one business talks, the person answering the question often starts by saying, “As you know, …” While it may seem polite or inclusive, it assumes everyone in your audience shares your knowledge. The truth is: they don’t.
- Why it weakens you: It alienates anyone unfamiliar with the topic and risks confusing your audience.
- What to say instead: Skip the assumption. Start by briefly explaining your point, ensuring everyone has a clear foundation to follow your ideas.
Example: Instead of saying, “As you know, our market share has increased…” try “Our market share has increased significantly this quarter — here’s why that matters.”
2. Skip “Talk About…” and Ask Stronger Questions
I coach people to moderate panels. They’ll often start questions with “Talk about…” — but it’s unnecessary. When you’re in a panel or discussion, talking is implied.
- Why it weakens you: It adds filler and dilutes the clarity of your question.
- What to say instead: Be direct. Replace “Talk about why that’s important to you” with “Why is that important to you?”
This small change shows confidence, respect for your audience’s time, and mastery of Smart Brevity — the art of saying more with fewer words.
3. End with Confidence — Not “If That Makes Sense”
In several business meetings, I’ve heard people end statements with the phrase, “if that makes sense.” The intent is good — you want to ensure everyone understands your point.
But here’s the problem: the word “if” weakens your statement.
Imagine Albert Einstein putting a question mark at the end of the theory of relatively. Confidence lost.
- Why it weakens you: It invites doubt where there likely isn’t any. Instead of reinforcing your expertise, you sound uncertain.
- What to say instead: Affirm your message and then check for understanding with stronger phrasing, such as:
- “Take a moment to think about what I just said and let me know if you have any questions.”
- “Does that resonate with you?”
- “Based on what we just discussed, what stands out to you?”
These alternatives show you value dialogue while maintaining authority. Verbal confidence is just one part of your overall presence. Your expressions and body language also shape how your audience perceives your message — especially when the questions get tough.
Build Confidence Through Practice and Coaching
Because these phrases are often used, it takes practice to replace unhelpful habits with stronger ones. Find time to rehearse in front of trusted experts who will give you two things: (1) honest and helpful feedback and (2) time for multiple practice rounds to improve performance.
Public speaking is a skill that grows with intention. The more you remove weak phrasing and replace it with confident communication, the more credible, clear, and compelling you’ll sound.
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FAQs on Public Speaking & Presentations Skills
Q: How can I sound more confident when I speak?
Use clear, direct language and eliminating filler phrases such as “I think,” “kind of,” or “if that makes sense.” As the legend Kobe Byatt once shared, confidence also comes from preparation. Practice your key points, slow your pace slightly, and maintain eye contact to convey authority.
Q: Why is brevity important in public speaking?
Brevity keeps your audience engaged and ensures your message is memorable. Short, intentional sentences signal confidence and respect for your audience’s time.
Q: How can I check if my audience understands me without sounding unsure?
Instead of asking “Did that make sense?”, use phrasing that shows confidence and invites dialogue:
- “Does that resonate with you?”
- “What’s your take on that?”
- “How might that apply to your situation?”
These questions check comprehension while reinforcing your authority.
Q: How do I practice removing filler phrases from my speech?
Record yourself during a presentation or meeting and identify repeated filler words. Replace them with pauses — silence often sounds more confident than a weak phrase. Practicing with trusted peers who can give specific feedback also helps strengthen delivery.
Q: Should I memorize my presentation or speak naturally?
A mix of both works best. Memorize your key points and transitions but speak naturally so you can adjust to the audience’s reactions. Over-rehearsed delivery can sound robotic; confident communicators adapt in real time.
